Have you ever bawled like a baby when reading a children’s fable? I have! Several years ago, as I was browsing the small bookstore at The Homestead Heritage in Waco, Texas, I picked up The Tale of Three Trees: A Traditional Folktale. I guarantee you that this was no ordinary children’s story. The tale tells of the dreams of three trees in the forest, who all long to grow into something that the world would value. One wanted to be the most beautiful, the other the strongest, and the third the tallest. After many years the woodcutters came to harvest these trees on the mountain.
What these three trees wished themselves to be instead became how they were used to serve. The purpose of each tree brought me to tears. Can you guess how the tallest tree was used? The third tree wanted to be the tallest tree in the land, and by some accounts this tree got what it wished for as it stood tall at Calvary with Jesus nailed to it. This tree had one idea of its future, but God had another purpose and plan. Despite the ugliness it endured as it co-labored with Jesus, the third tree had the opportunity to help bring Salvation to the world. Now that’s worth both living and dying for!
We all have dreams, and the question we should ask ourselves is whether we are dreaming the right dream. Are you pursuing your own dream or seeking to know God’s dream for your life? Sometimes God’s dream for your life will take you through ugliness, harshness, and cruelty such as what Jesus experienced on the cross? Much of the time you will never be made aware of the impact you are making and must maintain faith that God is using each faithful word and action for Kingdom impact. On those seemingly rare occasions when I do get feedback, I find those are the fuel that keep me seeking the Lord’s will for my life.
Excerpt from Sandra Dillon’s 2017 El Salvador Mission Journal
March 6, 2017
How many of you have hung out with the homeless? Serving and eating a meal with them? Fellowshipping and praising God with them? Well, Kate and Nate Stal gave Darin and me the opportunity to walk into their ministry by helping set up Motel Church this Sunday in the parking lot of an old strip mall on FM 1960. Many homeless live next to the “Motel” or the old Century 21 building nearby. Because Motel Church has had to flex where they set up on the first Sunday of the month, they have kiddingly dubbed this church the Parking Lot Church.
So how does Motel Church have any connection with our upcoming mission trip to El Salvador? God is always creative in how he speaks into my life. As I wrote in the last journal entry, God wrote the first book that culminated with the design and launch of World Changers on Mission (WCoM). I wrestled with whether God would start a second book in the series, and if so, I questioned how a repeat mission trip to El Salvador with LWI would begin the first chapter. I believe I have an inkling on what God might be scripting based on what He showed me during our two hours in church. Before I unpack His message, I want to share with you my experience as contextual background.
Motel Church entered my personal world when Matt and Holly Smith invited Kate and Nate Stal to a World Changers on Mission meeting. Darin and I specifically wanted to hear more about the call that God had put on Kate’s heart—bringing church to the homeless. After hearing her stories over dinner, we decided to step into Kate’s world. Kate’s passion was contagious, and we wanted to provide support to someone who was making personal sacrifices to follow God’s call. Rain or shine, Motel Church was holding service.
We met in the parking lot of a dilapidated but functioning strip mall which sat next to the motel where some of the homeless were staying. You might call this motel a flophouse. Other homeless church members had been living at an abandoned Century 21 building, but recently a fence had been installed around the property to prevent squatters. When we arrived at the strip mall, the parking lot was sporadically full with parked cars owned by those who were attending either one of two small churches located inside. The only sufficient parking area to set up tables was near the dumpster, which adjoined another building open for business. Kate was nervous to set up the church so close to the business in the event the owners decided to call the cops. What an awful feeling to think we could not hold church because of the fear of prosecution.
After the business owner gave us his blessing, we waited for Nate to arrive with supplies and food, so we could set up church. Kate knew many of the homeless members, so we engaged in conversation. Darin and I offered them drinks from our cooler, and we arranged tables, chairs, and placed Biblical resources on the tables. What I loved was how some of the homeless men helped. Kate did not know how many members would come to church because of the looming threat of rain and the fact that some had dispersed when the fence went up around the Century 21 building. Previously, they had as many as 30 attend this small Parking Lot Church. From my perspective, the numbers did not matter! God would bring the perfect number! As several more church members arrived, the volunteers started to serve plates of home-cooked food.
As we broke bread together, I was intrigued by the stories shared by James and Amy, a husband and wife, who lived in the woods behind the motel in a 3-bedroom tent. They had previously owned a much larger tent but had to downsize to a smaller one for some undisclosed reason. Before they could share more, dark clouds opened their flood gates, so we picked up the tables, chairs, and food and moved them under the shallow protective overhang that provided a sheltered walkway for the storefronts. We traded in our chairs and tables to sit on concrete planter boxes with plates on our laps. A few more folks arrived. Darin and I happened to strike up a conversation with Miss Karen, a woman in her 60’s, who had on a McDonald’s employee uniform. She lived in Greenspoint and took a bus to the stop in front of the strip mall, so she could then walk across the street to the McDonald’s where she worked. When she got off the bus, Miss Karen saw our church, was intrigued, and eventually came over to find out more. I asked her if she lived in Houston all her life, and after saying she was originally from Louisiana, she started to pull out old photos from a Ziploc bag. Some photos were over 50 years old and showed herself and her twin sister when they were young. She and her twin were separated at 9 years, when they went into the foster care system. She never saw her sister until she decided to search for her as an adult. This search brought her to Houston many years before. Miss Karen’s story was painful to hear, yet she spoke of it as if she expected nothing less of life. What was amazing is how she carried her most prized positions with her—these photo memories.
Jason started our church service with the third chapter in the book of James. What I loved was how everyone participated. Chris, one of the homeless church members who would not partake of any of the food, read some of the verses. Although Jason led the sermon, many people participated in the Scriptural discussion, vulnerably sharing their own testimonies. A youth worship team, who cancelled a few days before, left us without a praise and worship agenda. However, that did not stop one of the homeless men, who was enthralled with the message of James 3, to put his plate aside, rise, take the mic, and sing A Cappella about how God’s not dead. These few stories provide just a flavoring of what it was like to worship with Motel Church. God kept nudging me with thoughts of Motel Church and El Salvador. What do you want me to see, God?
God whispered that this is how he meant us to church. I like to refer to it as a virtual church. Matthew 18:20 describes church in its simplest version “For where two or three are gathered in my name, there am I among them” (ESV). Motel Church was beautiful, because it reflected church in its simplest design. A church is not a building but the gathering of those who are united in belief. Recently, God has been tugging on my heart to re-read the Book of Acts, which describes the formation of the early church after Jesus ascended into heaven to be with the Father. As described in Acts 2:46-47, “…breaking bread from house to house, they were taking their meals together with gladness and sincerity of heart, praising God and having favor with all the people…” (NASB).
I have walked in severe material poverty in third world countries, but surprisingly not spent the same amount of time in similar poverty situations in my own country. On a relative scale, you might consider the American homeless as one of our more extreme poverty populations. I found it strange how two active churches in the same strip mall were holding services, yet the homeless were not or did not feel welcome. Walls can create boundaries that separate and protect those who are behind closed doors. Are our church walls creating boundaries that separate the body of Christ? On the other hand, does the concept of a virtual church help prevent the slow and insidious behaviors of putting up walls of exclusion? What resonated with me was how active and participatory church could be in the virtual. Everyone was free to contribute and participate. In comparison, a church with four walls tends toward passive participation where the congregation sits and is fed from a pastor.
On our last trip to El Salvador, God told me that every one of us is equipped in some way where we stand, regardless of the newness of our faith. Jason was equipped to lead the sermon, and many of the homeless felt equipped to read from the Bible and contribute their testimonies and views. WCoM speaks to how church, business, and mission are integrated with connectivity, dignity, and the knowledge and faith that one is equipped. I have a feeling that God wants to show me a vision of church and has tied an element of this message with our mission trip to El Salvador. Perhaps the next book will speak to what the church should look like, how it should operate, and what it was intended to achieve. I am reminded of the Book of Revelation, where a unique message was delivered to each of the seven early churches. Each letter defined for the church how it was viewed through God’s eyes, a challenge or reproach, and a promise. In today’s climate of conflict and judgment, providing an environment where people from all walks of life can come together to share in the common bond of the love of Christ is one of the best strategies that I know of to grow the church. Only seven short months before mission departure! A lot can happen in seven months!
Many pastors, missionaries, and laymen understand the Kingdom power held in the relationships of church-on-mission or business-as-mission. However, many fail to acknowledge the power that can be unleashed when churches embrace the concept of church-as-business. In fact, the concept that a church would be run like a business may feel unnatural, uncomfortable, and even sacrilegious to some pastoral heads and laymen.
People love church-on-mission, because the idea gives them a warm, fuzzy and satisfying feeling of doing good, being charitable, and aligning with the mission of the Gospel. Most Christians think of mission as helping people in need, servicing the poor, making disciples, showing Jesus’s love, and preaching the Bible. The concept of mission conjures up serving locally or through short-term mission trips across the globe. Churches readily partner with missionaries, providing regular financial and prayer support to people who are called into full-time mission. Churches extend their congregations’ reach by investing in those who are called to be the hands and feet on the ground.
In more recent times, the concept of business-as-mission has grown in awareness and popularity, as churches realize the Kingdom impact of helping third-world families and leaders develop sustainable businesses that bring economic health to impoverished communities. The goal is to give someone a hand-up versus a hand-out—give a man a fish and he will eat for a day, teach a man to fish and he will feed himself for life. Therefore, churches are sending teams into third-world countries to teach business skills and sometimes providing micro-loans with the hope of helping men and women start or improve their business acumen, build sound business plans, and grow their enterprises.
Church-as-business provides a third, yet important side of the triangle—a side that has been overlooked and missing from many churches. Inclusion of church-as-business can propel church growth. Why the general taboo in thinking of churches operating as businesses? I have only theories. One theory reasons that with most pastors and church administration educated in theology—not business, marketing, operations, and finance—they lack knowledge or exposure to understand the value of business principles at play within the church. Another theory, is the cultural taboo associated with church and business—people should not talk about religion in the workplace, so perhaps the backlash is they do not talk or associate business with church. A third theory is the preconceived ideology that church and business are compartmentalized enterprises with nothing in common. Faith followers operate in businesses Monday through Friday, sometimes on Saturday, and Sunday is reserved for church service and other religious and social activities. Our culture supports the separation of church and business based on old Biblical standards such as honoring the Sabbath, Blue laws and practices of not talking about religion at the workplace.
I contend that churches and businesses have more similarities in how they work and what they want to achieve than people may initially want to admit. If my argument rings of any truth, churches can flourish by embracing many of the best practices identified, deployed, and further refined by businesses. Although the product manufactured by a church may be different than a business, the strategy and processes are fundamentally the same. With churches commissioned to grow disciples and businesses chartered to increase revenue/profit, churches can learn best practices in new business development from successful businesses.
For those who are not yet convinced that churches can learn from the business world, the table below defines the structural and operating elements which are unarguably similar between them with the only significant difference their output.
|Enterprise Purpose||Grow disciples||Grow revenue/profit|
|On-boarding Process||Membership Classes||Employee Orientation/Training|
|Human Capital Deployment||Service/Discipling||Job Responsibilities|
|Marketing||Sermon Series/Missions||New Products and Offerings|
Do you see the similarities in the building blocks and processes between a church and business? Many churches, just like businesses, grow and then lose traction, slow down, and in some cases, go bankrupt. Autopsy of a Deceased Church (Rainer, 2014) estimated that healthy churches account for only 10% of the church population, 10% are dying, and 80% are sick or very sick. Rainer (2014) studied churches to uncover what makes certain ones thrive and what are some signs that a church is sick or dying. Key signs of sickness include a congregation’s attitude that the best days are past, decline in worship attendance and tithing, programs and ministries which focus on members rather than outside the church, and no true sense of disciple-making. Busyness and activity replaces meaningful purpose. With these sobering statistics, I would expect a church to have an on-going self-evaluation process and focus on implementing best practices.
Don’t these key signs of sickness sound familiar to when a business struggles? Employees adopt a bad attitude, unmotivated employees frequently call in sick, management becomes increasingly focused on retaining employees with programs and rewards to the detriment of its customers. Employees lose focus on the business purpose and in cultivating customers. Businesses grow through innovation and a customer focus through knowledgeable, aligned, and motivated employees who understand and believe in the business vision and purpose. They know their role in the organization and how they contribute to the goals. Churches attract members when they focus on serving others, making disciples, and living out the mission of the church.
On the other hand, businesses suffer as customers leave and take their purchasing-power elsewhere; churches suffer when members take their tithe money and time to another church or at worst use it for personal consumption. In the business world, studies run the gambit in identifying and quantifying the impact of best practices. What can churches learn about best practices from these business studies? Although an internet search would likely provide handfuls of articles on best practices, I have my own list cultivated from my more than 30 years working and developing new product lines and businesses.
Leadership cannot lead unless they can define and clearly articulate for its employees and members the purpose and direction they plan to take the company or church. First, leadership must develop a vision and mission statement as well as define the operating values that support the purpose of the church. The vision must be detailed enough that it differentiates itself from other churches and provides a clear sense of direction for its members. On the other hand, the vision must not be too specific that the boundaries constrain how God wants to empower and use its members. Just as God designed individuals with specific spiritual gifts, so too has God breathed life and gifts into various churches to accomplish a purpose. In my opinion, the weakest mission statements are those which are “motherhood and apple pie,” which deliver a feel-good message that no one can argue with and which appeals to everyone who passes through its doors. An example would be “Making disciplines who are making disciples.” No one would disagree that should be a job assignment of every Christ-follower. However, I expect with this vision many members would not feel equipped or understand how they will achieve that mission. They do not even understand how they will know if the church is achieving its mission. With so many questions, people feel left to their own devices and at worst never become truly engaged in the church’s vision, just taking from the church what satisfies their curiosity and spiritual need.
The vision and mission are critically important so people can make an informed decision to join the church, because that vision/mission resonates with them. The church should set an expectation that all are welcome where they stand and will grow spiritually by supporting the defined vision and mission. All churches cannot be all things to all people. Better for a church, which is functionally its members, to define how God has called them to serve in this fallen world. Churches are most effective when they can define what fits and what does not. The vision/mission becomes the referee on how they will direct their resources when bombarded with endless opportunities and demands. What would be a solid and compelling vision and mission statement for a church? If I had to describe what I would be most attracted to as a Christ-follower, below is what I would be called to join.
Build a transforming Christian army to love the world as Christ loves all
Coach leaders to crush their limiting beliefs, love who they are, and discover their identity in Christ. This mission will be accomplished through the following:
- Self-exploring to identify lies that are holding back personal identity and service and replace with the truth
- Driving on world service in ways that show Jesus’s love to others and honors personal spiritual gifts and talents
- Meeting people whether they are in their personal spiritual journey and providing information and encouragement to purse Christ as their personal savior
- Developing and encouraging future world changes to organize and move out in service
The above vision/mission is detailed, yet flexible enough to move in many directions. Visitors would have a clear understanding of what the church stands for, how it operates, what they could expect from the church in terms of support, and what would be required of them. Hopefully, it would inspire versus confuse them!
The second most important church practice is to assimilate its members who are the human capital that fuels the outreach in the community and grows the church. Many churches have a bunch of social and crisis-intervention programs for the congregation that attracts membership. Caution! All these services can be beneficial to support the rough spots in the lives of its members as well as attract others to Christ in the process, but leadership must be canvasing the landscape to ensure a healthy balance of services with their mission. An imbalance can be a sign of a sick church.
Many churches host membership classes for those who are interested in learning more about the church or becoming members. These classes typically provide a history of the church, explain what it is doing in its community, ask one to be part of the church, and then want to sign one up to a life or small group. I believe a more sustainable method of attracting members is to provide the full landscape and plan, explain what the church expects of its members, and then explain how the church will partner with them to contribute. Share the story that they are part of the story to create change and make an impact! However, the message cannot be held at a high level. Sell the story with enough granularity that they can see themselves as part of the team or solution. Once they see themselves part of something bigger than themselves, the church can equip them or convince them they are equipped for action. When people feel part of a mission bigger than themselves and buy in emotionally, their resources of time and money will follow. Their excitement builds.
Many churches may successfully develop their vision, mission, and values, but fail to equip the congregation. As in business, many strategies have been dead-on best in class, but the execution fell apart, and management blamed the strategy for failure. Churches are not immune from the same malady. Visioning and missioning is tough but relatively much easier than execution. Visioning takes a finite amount of time and culminates in a final statement—it has an end; whereas, execution is an on-going fight for growth. The process is fundamentally endless, and leadership may tire in trying to keep the execution ball moving forward towards the pins without it going into the side-gutters.
Many pastors preach from the pulpit on what is required by the congregation to meet its vision and mission. First, there are requests, then more forceful pleas. No one in the congregation disagrees, but they fail to act. Using the former mission statement example of Disciples making disciples, everyone would agree that is an important vision for any Christian church, yet despite the pastor’s encouragement, the majority sitting in the pews feel ill-equipped to have conversation with non-Christians about their faith and Jesus. This post-modern world does not provide an environment conducive to Christians sharing the Good News with non-believers. Most Christians are uncomfortable discussing their faith even if it means the church body does not grow (Rainer, 2014). Carter (2012) found that despite 80% of Christians feeling sufficiently knowledgeable to communicate their faith and believing they have a personal responsibility to share the Gospel, more than 60% have not shared the Gospel even once with a non-believer in the previous six months. Some have never shared their faith. These studies make the case that churches need to empower their members (employees) and provide tools, ideas, and perspectives that allow them to be more comfortable in talking about their faith and overcoming the barriers of inaction. Soul Whisperer (Comer, 2013) is a must-read for the current age. Comer’s (2013) message breaks the long-held paradigms of evangelism and introduces more relevant coaching for Christians to share the Good News. Build a relationship, start where they are and not where you are, read what they need, and show them how God is helping you now, are all powerful ways to share the Gospel.
In addition to discipleship, members can grow in their spiritual walk by serving others. When someone asks me, “How can I find myself,” I have one and only one answer. “Go serve. You will find yourself in serving.” Therefore, churches should have a variety of outlets for service. By service, I do not necessarily mean greeter, parking guide, worship and service child provider. Although these are important functions and membership needs to help with these services, the church should have service opportunities outside of the church that are aligned with the vision and mission. These options should focus at a minimum within the local community, because this is the source of your new membership. However, if the church’s mission supports a cause such as sex-trafficking or orphan care, the outreach opportunities should have no boundaries.
Does the church offer members a spiritual gift inventory? Are there opportunities for members to apply them? As the church grows, leadership should empower individuals and teams to carry the torch on various initiatives—similar in how businesses launch project teams with internal sponsorship oversight. Success stories should be shared from the pulpit as a means of stimulating the quest for service. Members are the lifeblood of the church, they are the church, and empowering them in a way to bring in new members by serving in their communities and sharing the Gospel is what the church should focus on. Do we need another sermon from the pulpit to add to our knowledge or just encouragement to learn Jesus through serving? Too many times I have heard, “Just one more Bible study and I’ll be ready to serve.” We are all equipped to serve in one way or another exactly where we stand. Our stories of service are our most powerful tools and what we use to harvest and feed ourselves. Instead of being a spectator in the pew, be a world changer in the field.
Next, I will discuss my business thoughts in building a personal church brand and marketing.
Carter, J. (2012). Study: Most churchgoers never share the gospel. The Gospel Connection. Retrieved from https://www.thegospelcoalition.org/article/study-most-churchgoers-never-share-the-gospel
Comer, G. (2013). Soul whisperer: Why the church must change the way it views evangelism. Eugene, OR: Resource Publications. ISBN: 978-1-62032-183-6.
Rainer, T. S. (2014). Autopsy of a deceased church: Twelve ways to keep yours alive. Nashville, TN: B&H Publishing. ISBN: 978-1-4336-8392-3.
Excerpt from LWI El Salvador 2016 Mission Journal (November 2, 2016)
I typically write my closing journal entry several days after returning from mission, so that I have time not only to unpack my bags but also the messages God shares with me during the week. Although I know God uses my hands and feet on the ground to serve, I am also to receive. God did not disappoint. I believe he put all the pieces together for me starting from my journey to Kenya in 2013, Haiti in 2014, Honduras in 2015, and then Kenya and El Salvador in 2016. Besides these short-term mission trips, God placed on my heart Shine Crossings and World Changers on Mission (WCoM). At the end of 2015, God closed the door to my employment at TPC Group and opened another door for me to attend Liberty University full-time to purse my second Masters which is in Human Services Counseling, Life Coaching. God made this all possible by bringing Darin into my life as a soulmate, supporter, and now financial leader of our home, so I could walk through the threshold and into the calling God has for my life. God has a plan, and I am living it!
Two years prior, God told me to watch for the Cross laid over the Star of David. Well, the corners of that star started to take shape about 6 months ago. God gave me the vision of the first triangle with corners of church (people), mission (developmental service), and business (enterprises). After my trip to Kenya in early 2016 another inverted triangle started to take form with dignity (in service). This trip completed the other two points of this triangle which are equipped (where we stand) and connectivity (God has no borders). So, when you put the two triangles together you have the Star of David. When I stepped into the Tabernacle Church in El Salvador and saw their emblem, the message was that Christ covers it all. The puzzle is complete. I believe when God told me to look for the Cross over the Star of David, he was telling me that he had given me everything. It is done! Now go!
I will be honest. I’m a bit scared. Not scared of failure, but just scared, because it is just so overwhelmingly big. Therefore, I remind myself again of TD Jakes’ message at the Global Leadership Summit (GLS). If you can accomplish your dream on your own, you are not dreaming big enough. I am also reminded of the bracelet that God encouraged me to buy just weeks before mission—FEARLESS. Dream big! Fearless! And fear less! I better embrace it all, and as I like to coach others and must take my own advice—just MOVE! GO! Have no fear, God is with you always.
The Essence of Global Leadership
How do you summarize the information and inspiration that is captured and released upon those who come to Willow Creek Church (WCC) in Barrington, Illinois, for the annual Global Leadership Summit (GLS, www.willowcreekglobalsummit.com) or to those who choose to spend two days in a church, prison or other venue across the United States and Canada to soak in the wisdom and blessings via satellite streaming? I struggle with how to convey the power of GLS to transform your thoughts, thinking and behaviors towards becoming a better leader. As Bill Hybels, Founder and Senior Pastor of Willow Creek, passionately loves to say, “Everyone wins when a leader gets better.” My response is, “Amen! I want to hear more.”
In 2015 Greg Lernihan, friend and church member of Willow Creek, suggested my husband and I attend GLS through a satellite location in Houston, Texas. Fortunately, our home church, Northside Christian, decided to host this event for the first time, where we were blessed to fellowship in the leadership messages with our pastors, members, and visitors. We were so moved by the power of the experience we immediately signed up to attend GLS in the main auditorium at Willow Creek for 2016. For the record WCC seats about 7,000 people, and the GLS 2016 tickets sold out in about 30 minutes. When 2017 tickets went on sale on August 11, 2016, auditorium tickets sold out within 15 minutes. When you get a taste of GLS, you understand its power and typically want to make a commitment to return every year.
So what is GLS all about for those who may never have heard of this two-day personal investment event? In a nutshell, GLS brings together real leaders who are moving forward, learning, struggling and succeeding in their fields of leadership, who have a servant heart, and who desire to share with the world their knowledge, so everyone can become better at leading themselves, their families, co-workers, and their communities. As such the speakers come from diverse backgrounds and cover leadership in faith-based organizations, politics, businesses, and other non-profit government organizations (NGO). There is something for everyone to say the least. The messages transcend religion, culture, and lifestyles.
Past leaders whose names you probably recognize include Jack Welch, Jim Collins, Ed Catmull, Brene Brown, Tyler Perry, Carly Fiorina, Louie Giglio, General Colin Powell, Mark Burnett, and Condoleezza Rice. Many other speakers, who may not be as well-known as CEOs and celebrities, were just as impactful in their research findings and areas of expertise. GLS 2016 did not disappoint and included some new and returning favorite speakers advancing new topics. This year’s lineup included Bill Hybels, Alan Mulally, Melinda Gates, Jossy Chacko, Travis Bradberry, Patrick Lencioni, Chris McChesney, Erin Meyer, John Maxwell, Bishop T.D. Jakes, Danielle Strickland, Horst Schulze, and Wilfredo De Jesus.
So you are thinking, enough of the background, I get it! I’m sold on GLS, so what did you learn? Below is just one key message (Part 1) shared by what I thought was one of the most powerful speakers, Bill Hybels, along with my entwined commentary.
Bill Hybels: The Lenses of Leadership
Bill discussed four types of eyewear that every leader should try on and decide how well the lenses are working to correct his/her leadership vision. The first pair are the red hot passion lenses which beg the question, “Are you presiding over people or energizing people to get from HERE to THERE?” Studies show that a leader gets a 40% performance differential from motivated versus unmotivated people. So, how does a leader get more passion? Passion is typically inspired by a dream, outrage, or extreme frustration which forces one to become an unstoppable force to create change. When you put on your ruby red eyeglasses, how filled is your passion bucket? Are you satisfied with the passion you have in life and how you are leading in your workplace and family? If you’re not satisfied, what are you going to do about it? After all, it’s the leader’s job to fill his own passion bucket and no one else’s. If you don’t know where to start, pick up a book of interest, go to places that stir your soul, or hang out with passionate people. Passion can be contagious! Help just one person, and you’ll be surprised how your passion bucket begins to fill.
The second pair of eyeglasses to try on are the shattered lenses. How many leaders are operating in or perpetuating a fear-based organization versus honoring people and building well-functioning cultures that are performance oriented! Organizations will only be as healthy as the leader’s desire and intent. Sometimes the shattered lenses are so close to the leader’s eyes that he/she cannot see clearly what the culture has become. If the leader’s true heartfelt desire is to lead and love well, how does s/he get a true perspective? If you are a work organization, you can hire an independent firm to survey the culture. If you are leading your family, you can ask trusted family and friends for feedback without rebuttal or justification. What many leaders forget as they strive for results is that God only values one thing—people. God has entrusted leaders with his treasures—his people. Sometimes leaders lose sight of the journey and its people while trying to reach a goal.
How can a leader coach and support people to be all that God intended them to be? The first step is to increase self-awareness and expose their talents. Some people have never self-reflected or taken inventory of their talents and don’t know where to start. If you don’t know what you’re really good at, ask those who are closest to you. Most of your friends, family, and coworkers have already done an informal assessment of your strengths and weaknesses. After all, they typically discuss this in small groups around the water cooler or coffee bar. What can organizations do with this knowledge? How about matching people’s strengths with roles that would take advantage of those strengths and minimize the impact of weaknesses.
The third pair of specialized eyewear are the performance self-adjusting lenses. All organizations typically come together for a purpose which usually includes setting and achieving goals whether formal or implied. Companies have goals for revenue, profit, safety, and customer satisfaction. Even families have goals such as raising healthy and independent adult children. Churches have goals such as the number of people served or number of members who have joined. In general, the speed of the leader equals the speed of the team in achieving their goals. So this correlation begs the question of how can goals impact the speed of the team and what adjustments do leaders need to make? Bill professed that WCC was once a goalaholic church with too many goals and not enough people to carry out all the good ideas and initiatives. You can imagine the results from goal overload, because many of you probably work in that environment today. Burnout? Feeling a lack of appreciation? Life becomes more about the goals and processes versus the people and the relationships? So how can a leader adjust, get his/her team to perform at higher levels, and boost the morale of the team all at the same time? These are not opposing forces; leaders just need to readjust.
First, let’s break a myth held by some leaders which is people are uncomfortable with performance feedback. Truth, people want to know that their senior leaders are proud of their progress. Truth, people want to know how they are doing and where they stand. Truth, people want clarity and can accept negative feedback if the truth is said with the spirit of love. Not giving goals and feedback is essentially cruel. Second, if you can embrace these truths, the next step is for the leader to set the vision/mission for the organization and then ask the team what the goals should be. Each department should be empowered to develop strategies, decide and own measurable goals, and celebrate the successes. If you have too many or two few goals you will not have clarity, but entrust your team to find the perfect balance to prioritize and focus on the win.
What is in your leadership rearview mirror? The fourth pair of eyeglasses that Bill perched atop his nose were the legacy lenses. Have you peeked lately into your rearview mirror to see what you’ve left behind as you moved people from HERE to THERE? At least on an annual basis, leaders should reflect on their legacy, self-evaluate, and learn how to do better. Leadership is about energy, and Bill suggested drawing an energy pie to determine where you are putting your energy: work, family, church, community, others, etc.
God designed us to flourish holistically, and in many cases we are putting all our energy into our work. How do you need to redistribute your energy across the pie slivers? What areas should remain untouched, which need a do-over, or perhaps one or more just need a make-over. It is never too late to change the course if you act now. Legacies can change in an instant, and the proof was in the simple yet powerful story of the thief on the cross next to Jesus who said, “Jesus remember me when You come in Your kingdom!” And he [Jesus] said to him, “Truly I say to you, today, you shall be with Me in Paradise.” (Luke 23:42-43). As Bill reminded us of that short scripture, he also mentioned that 43 prisons were watching this leadership summit live.
Bill’s last statement ignited a passion! My husband and I are executive volunteers for the Prison Entrepreneurship Program (PEP, www.pep.org) in Cleveland, Texas. PEP are leaders in their quest to transform men, their families, and the community by empowering ex-felons with character-building and business skills so they can integrate into society as healthy and contributing citizens. PEP’s success is measured by its recidivism rate of 7% for those graduating from the program versus the prison population at large of > 50%. We need to add the Cleveland Correctional Facility to the list of GLS satellites, so that at least 44 prisons will be streaming GLS live in 2017. Who wants to be part of the team? I’m willing to lead!
I travel the world and in my community carrying my self-identity in missional living. Back in February 2016 my husband and I returned from Nairobi, Kenya from a business-as-mission themed short-term trip developed between my home church, Northisde Christian (NCC), the local church, Redeemed Gospel Church (RGC), and a non-profit Transformational Ventures (TV). Below is my final journal entry where I shared what God revealed to me in my walk with him during my time in the slums of Nairobi. My Chapter 3 as mentioned below has been written in the documentary Poverty, Inc.* The message hit me upside the head as hard as a two-by-four. After being stunned and finally picking myself up off the floor, I am processing the message in how it continues to break my paradigms about missional living and my role in developmental mission. Stay tuned for my next blog where I unfold my Chapter 3 and response. This entry provides perspective…
* Poverty, Inc. available for viewing on Netflix
Wednesday, February 24, 2016
Over the past 10 days I have rejoined my normal world. The re-entry process for every mission journey is unique, because it is a time of reflection and consideration of next steps based on experiences that challenge my thinking. Although I am fairly experienced at international mission journeys, I desire to understand what God wants to show me on any journey. God has a purpose, and I seek to understand his message and what I am to learn and do.
So spending time in my journal and reviewing all the photos and videos we took of our journey together, some of the themes that keep coming to mind are:
- Power of partnership, especially with dignity
- Relationships, not necessarily business
- Transforming lives
As I dig deeper in thought what rises to the surface is the “Power of Partnership to Transform Lives” through dignity and not charity. The words power, partnership, transform, dignity and charity will all have slightly different meanings to the reader depending on the filter by which each word is read. All 6 words by themselves are positioned for misinterpretation, so string them all together into one phrase, and I fear the concept may get messy! What does she mean by the “Power of Partnership to Transform Lives?”
I believe Redeemed Gospel Church (RGC) and Northside Christian Church (NCC) can be partners to transform lives both spiritually, emotionally, mentally and physically. When two organizations come together for a common goal, many people refer to the union as a partnership. When I refer to a union, I am careful to delineate the difference between a partnership and a relationship. A partnership brings two entities together that have a long-term vision, are joined through thick and thin, pool resources, hold each other accountable and are each valued by the other in what they can bring to the partnership. Upon closer examination many churches or non-profit partnerships have some of the above elements but not all. When one organization believes it provides more value than the other joining organization, the unspoken word is charity. For lack of a better descriptor, the dominant partner perceives it is giving away some of its value (charity) to combine into one entity. There may be a reasonable driver for this type of union, but I would not call it a partnership under those circumstances. In typical business merger and acquisition, a fair price or equity position is negotiated for the value each company may bring to a joint venture or merger.
Well placed charity is a blessing! Northside financially blesses many initiatives or mission outreaches that align with their vision, mission, and goals. Northside and RGC have a long standing relationship where Northside has brought money and people to help drill a water well on the property, put a new roof on the church, etc. Transformational Ventures has invested time and resources in helping the RGC leadership personally and organizationally. I am sure Northside will continue financial support, because they believe in what the church is trying to accomplish. All this is a blessing for the giver and receiver! As RGC, Northside and Transformational Ventures continue to make progress in its aligned goals, the word partnership seems to be mouthed more frequently. I challenge those who are speaking “partnership” to define and describe what that truly means in action. What does that look, taste and feel like tangibly?
I truly believe that RGC and Northside can be true partners in the way that I have suggested partnership, but first, both churches have to get real with what they each can and will bring to the table in the partnership. No one way contribution—charity, but two way contribution—dignity. I know this is a paradigm shift in thinking. What will RGC contribute? I’m not suggesting material resources that they don’t have? I would suggest they can help our church learn how to culturally embrace what it means to love God (worship), to love others (service and tithing), and to make disciplines of disciplines (how to spread the Gospel). Not sure we do as good a job on these endeavors as RGC. Maybe they can mentor us in a partnership? Share their best practices?
Pastor Brown and Pastor Dave are the men who will eventually decide whether RGC and Northside will truly partner by pooling their talents and resources. God has no boundaries and neither should we. If together NCC and RGC can save a 1,000 souls this year, does it matter whether they are in Africa or America or any combination of the two?
In summary, God has a reason for every mission journey, a message for every individual who chooses to venture into the field and for every person who meets the missionary. As Mohamed so purposefully said, “It wasn’t an accident; God brought us together.” I also believe when you live missionally and live out your purpose, God will reveal a bigger story over your lifetime. One mission journey may only be a chapter in a 1,000-page novel, but it may feel like you just devoured the whole book.
I believe this second trip to Kenya was another chapter in a book God wants me to read. These first chapters of a Pulitzer Prize winning novel are setting my foundation, teaching me, challenging my thoughts, and shaping my views. My first chapter, which was my first trip to Kenya with Woodlands Church, was about understanding and experiencing good developmental mission. I continue to practice developmental mission in my daily life through the Prison Entrepreneurship Program (PEP) to keep me sharpened in this area.
God had me read the second chapter of my novel when he took me to Kenya on this trip. He defined for me what true partnership has to embody for long-term sustainability—dignity! Dignity not just in actions but in heart/mind belief! People can act with dignity, but if the heart/mind is not aligned on dignity the partnership is reduced to a relationship. There is power in partnership to transform lives.
As I finish chapter 2, I am anticipating chapter 3, yet I don’t know where chapter 3 is yet. Where can I get a copy? I don’t know. Is chapter 3 another foundational learning or am I going to get to practice and take action? I have so many unanswered questions for the future. Guess you could call this a cliffhanger. As soon as I find that third chapter I’ll let you know!
Who likes to judge or be the judge? How often do you find yourself judging? To whatever frequency you just admitted, I bet if you thoughtfully played back those daily rituals in your mind, you would surprise yourself in how much more judging you do than first thought. You probably judge the taste of your cup of java (“ah, so good” or “ugh, that’s bitter”), your reflection back in the morning mirror (“yikes, look at those bags and dark circles under my eyes”), and those other drivers on the road (“pay attention, what an idiot”). What are some of your thoughts when you arrive at work? How about the casual assessment of your colleague’s work (“that sucks, he should have been fired a long time ago”), the choice of your coworker’s attire (“what was she thinking”), and how about the leadership of your boss (“I could do better with half a brain”). Some of these judgments may be extreme, but you have to admit not uncommon. As humans we are so quick to judge without much thought, as if our judgment is fed from our five senses fueling our emotions which override our thinking brain, and in some cases, just barely stops at the tip of our tongues. How did it hear, look, taste, smell and feel? Did our ability to make quick judgment stem from our humanistic need for survival—the ability to make a quick threat assessment and spring into action to protect ourselves and ensure our safety. God made humans with this beautiful part of the brain called the “pre-frontal cortex” which gives us some incredible abilities that surpass all other living creatures on earth. Our pre-frontal cortex gifts us with the ability not to act on impulse or innate reflexes but to use reason and logic in assessing our living situations. So why don’t we seem use it more? Why is it so easy for us to pass judgment with hardly giving it a second thought? Could it be that we have not been burned badly enough by our quick conclusions to exert more cortex capacity? Humans can be conditioned!
So what does it feel like to be judged? When I ask this question, I am sure you can immediately conjure up a few examples that bring a twinge of pain even today after many years. Are you having a bit of an emotional rise? Unpleasant at best, maybe a bit angry at worst. As you dwell on some of these painful memories, some thoughts you may have are “but I just didn’t have a choice,” “I was young, stupid and didn’t get any slack,” and “if only they could walk in my shoes they would understand why I did what I did.” You may be right. If I walked in your shoes at that moment, I may have done exactly what you did and have more compassion for you today. You were judged, convicted and sentenced! Welcome to prison! You may not be incarcerated, but you are still a prisoner in your own mind. You cannot erase that memory or pain of how you were judged. Perhaps you feel you served your sentence by making amends, but why does it feel like the punishment is still life imprisonment? Being on the receiving end of judgment can be painful and leave scars for a lifetime. So if we can agree that being judged is unpleasant at best, why do we continue to give out what we hate to receive?
Let me clarify one point that typically comes into the discussion on judgment. Many people use discernment and judgment interchangeably, especially in the Christian world. Aren’t those the same? Not exactly. Discernment assesses value and typically leads to action whereas judgment just labels. Discernment is wisdom and understanding whereas judgment is an assessment of right or wrong, good versus bad. You can have discernment that a situation is unsafe, then take appropriate action to ensure your safety. Judgment would describe a situation as unsafe but not necessarily imply action. As humans we need discernment, but judgment does not serve ourselves or others as well. Remember that old saying, “Sticks and stones may break my bones, but names will never hurt me.” Not true! Hurtful, judgmental words cut deeper than any knife could, and many of those internal wounds may never heal. How many kids on the playground may have shouted those words in return to judgmental statements such as “You can’t hit the ball. I don’t want you on my team,” or “You’re wearing flood pants, did you borrow them from your baby brother?” Yes, I was a victim then. I now know that those cruel words left the mouth of babes because their immature pre-frontal cortex, yet you know, as a teacher supervising that playground, you might have thought those same words. Of course, you kept your mouth shut. If everyone understood the eternal, faithful love that God has for us, no one would be able to hurt us with words or actions, because we would understand that our identity and self-worth only reside in our loving God. Unfortunately, we do not live in this perfect world; therefore, work, possessions and human relationships have a heavy influence on people’s sense of self-worth and ability to feel loved and valued.
I will stipulate that judgment and subsequent consequences are completely appropriate and necessary in our law system. However, I will be honest that my heart breaks for those who have made mistakes, served their prison sentence, but have walls to climb in order to integrate back into community despite their deep desire to contribute to society. In the best of circumstances, think about those adults who have been convicted of a minor “F”elony, never harmed another individual, and only served probation. I have one of those friends who was convicted of drug possession, sentenced to probation for his first offense, but has to wear the “F” on his shirt like a scarlet letter. With his felony status he cannot live in any apartment complex, has few job opportunities, and is constantly judged unworthy. He is trying to do better but the system and community are both intentionally and unintentionally working against him. Sometimes the difference between a felony is only one person getting caught and the other not. We are all human, have weakness and possible addictions. Maybe he had too much dependence on marijuana which got him into trouble. Addiction is addiction and can manifest itself differently with each individual. Hoarding, alcohol, food, spending money, exercise and pornography can all become addictions if the behavior is taken to extreme, yet we typically judge people who have these additions differently. Why? Because those addictions happen to be legal, whereas in most states marijuana is still illegal.
Can we not have more compassion for those who are trying to help themselves in the moment? Can we stop labeling people as good or bad and start labeling people as hurt and in need or healthy and blessed? My heart hurts for those who are suffering under the heavy weight of judgment. I cannot change the world, but I can call it out with the hope that people will have greater pause and hopefully more awareness of their judgment. Instead of judging, why not lend a helping hand, or extend a kind word or gesture. Lift a human brother or sister up with words of affirmation versus tearing them down. But you may say, “I don’t say anything. I keep my thoughts to myself. My thoughts can’t hurt anyone.” I would disagree; those negative thoughts are carried in your body language and manifest themselves in choices of behavior towards others whether you are conscious of it or not.
And for those of you who made it to this point and thought, “Isn’t she judging?” My reply is, “Yes I am! I admit it. I’m judging with a purpose.” Am I suggesting that as humans we will suspend all judgment? Of course not, we all fall short of perfection. As sinners we can only challenge ourselves to do better! We should take the plank out of our own eye, before trying to remove the speck out of our brother’s, as our own sin blinds us to the truth of the situation. My hope is you will be more thoughtful every time you catch yourself judging. Might this be one of those times where you make a different assessment or choice and change a life with words of encouragement or actions of a loving hand up? I pray that you do! I leave you with this final thought: Your judgment may say more about you than it does about the person you judge!