Everybody Always: How Do I Prove Who I Am?

Bob GoffBob Goff followed up Love Does with Everybody Always which uses his own struggles, told as stories, to challenge us on whether we’re becoming Christ-like in our walk with Him. Just when I thought I was walking straighter and farther, Bob smacked me upside the head with the truth, so my eyes could see more clearly the path ahead of me. Thank you, Bob, I needed that, and as I suspect, we all do at least every now and then.

The Book

I recommend you read Everybody Always and add your own fingerprints on the cover and pages in between. Do you notice the colorful ovals decorating the cover of the book? Most of the fingerprints are from witch doctors in the Love Does School in Gulu, Uganda! I bet that has you at least mildly curious to know more. The true story will rock your world and show you what God can do when you choose to be more like Jesus. I say, “Love everybody always and go change the world.”

My Thoughts

With yellow highlighter and red pen in hand, I marked the pages and took plentiful notes in the margins. My mind filled with many questions and ideas that haven’t been fully answered or thought through. I encourage you to read the book and receive the messages God is speaking into you through the penned words of Bob Goff (2018). I pulled some of Bob’s messages and mixed them with my own thoughts as follows:

  • Many people ask themselves: Who am I? What if instead we asked ourselves: How do I prove who I am?
  • Love has been described as a feeling and a verb. What if love was a proper noun and someone we become? What if we strive to be called Love with a capital L.
  • What would it take to become Love? We would probably have to conquer a whole lot of fear. What if you weren’t afraid anymore? Be not afraid and stop letting fear call the shots.
  • When we distance ourselves from people would that be akin to Jesus turning wine back into water? Can we truly love God if we can’t love the people we’re not comfortable with?
  • Are our righteous opinions blocking people from seeing Jesus? Let the power of love do all the talking for Him.
  • Those uncomfortable people and enemies are called our teachers, and the world is just one big classroom. Are you making the most of your classroom time?
  • We become what the people closest to us say we are! Have you pinned on your hall monitor badge—casting out judgment instead of God’s love?
  • What’s the difference between a castle and a kingdom? Castles have moats to keep people out, and kingdoms have bridges to connect people. Are you building a castle or a kingdom?
  • WITH is a short word with big meaning. How much are you living out WITH? I know I’m with you, Bob!
  • People who are becoming love stop pretending who and where they are in their faith and are real about who they are right now and want to be some day.
  • “Why not just go somewhere to learn about your faith from the people you find there and be as helpful as you can be?” (p. 73)
  • Many of us pray for the green light from Jesus. Don’t be fooled. Our faith, life, and experiences are the green lights. Jesus knows we want more confirmation, but He hopes we don’t become parallelized waiting for it. Go! Stop waiting for permission. “What a shame it would be if we were waiting for God to say something while He’s been waiting on us to do something.” (p. 136)
  • People who are becoming love define success and failure not by the world’s standard but by how Jesus did. Who should you be associating with that you haven’t been? Invite strange people into your life.
  • Where you focus your vision is where you will land. Where is your focus: career, relationship, possessions? Do you need to turn your head in a different direction?
  • When you look in someone’s face do you see brokenness or opportunity?
  • “How is your life working for the people around you? Because if our lives aren’t working for the people around us, our lives aren’t working for us.” (p. 159)

Two Big Questions

Why is it so damn hard to be like Jesus? The response to that question is similar to what I say to premarital couples sitting on my couch about marriage: “It’s hard work. Anything worth having requires hard work, so why would marriage be any different?” Yes, being like Jesus is hard work, but isn’t the reward worth the struggle?

Jesus said the two greatest commandments were to (1) love God with all your heart, soul, and mind, and (2) love your neighbor as yourself. I believe this journey to fulfill those commandments can start by answering for ourselves:

Who do I think Jesus is?

Who am I and how do I prove who I am?

Now who’s ready to go on a Love & Learning Journey?

References

Goff, B. (2012). Love Does: Discover a Secretly Incredible Life in an Ordinary World. Nashville, TN: Thomas Nelson.

Goff, B. (2018). Everybody Always: Becoming Love in a World Full of Setbacks and Difficult People. Nashville, TN: Nelson Books.


About the Author: Sandra Dillon is a professional coach with an extensive background in leadership, premarital/marriage, and financial coaching. She coaches individuals and couples as well as designs and facilitates workshops. She has a passion to help people be the best versions of themselves.  You can learn more about Sandra by visiting her website at www.shinecrossingsministry.com.

 

Mission Trip by What Other Name?

mission tripOne of my favorite books of all time is Love Does. I can wholeheartedly say, “I’m with you, Bob. We need to become love in a world full of setbacks and difficult people.” If you want to know whether you currently have what it takes to really love people, all you have to do is read and reflect on the first short story in Love Does. I encourage you to sit down with your spouse and friends to honestly answer whether you could have done what Bob did. I was so moved in my faith from Loves Does, I had to follow it by reading Everybody Always.

Many friends know that I combine my love of travel and love of people by planning and going on short-term mission trips. Making new friends across the globe is one of my yearly highlights. Goff (2018) encourages us to go out into the world: “Instead of saying you’re a missionary, why not go somewhere to learn about your faith from the people you find there and be as helpful as you can be?” (p. 73). The simplicity of his question resonated with me, because I always learn and receive as much as I give. Going on mission is a gift to both the sender and receiver, and God speaks to me on every trip through the people, conversations, visions, and symbols.

Bob further challenges us that if we’re going to be more like Jesus, we need to trade in words that are familiar to us and use ones that Jesus did. Jesus never went on “mission trips”—he just loved people as encountered them which led me to ask, “What would be a better substitute for the vernacular of a mission trip?”

Instead of mission, would serving, loving, caring, connecting, learning, or helping be better adjectives? Would adventure, journey, travel, voyage, passage, expedition, or crossing be a better word for trip? Although I’m partial to serving, it doesn’t capture the duality of the impact. If you ask me, I’m partial to a Love & Learning Journey. What resonates with you?

References

Goff, B. (2012). Love Does: Discover a Secretly Incredible Life in an Ordinary World. Nashville, TN: Thomas Nelson.

Goff, B. (2018). Everybody Always: Becoming Love in a World Full of Setbacks and Difficult People. Nashville, TN: Nelson Books.


About the Author: Sandra Dillon is a professional coach with an extensive background in leadership, premarital/marriage, and financial coaching. She coaches individuals and couples as well as designs and facilitates workshops. She has a passion to help people be the best versions of themselves.  You can learn more about Sandra by visiting her website at www.shinecrossingsministry.com.