Where is Adullam Ranch?

September 29, 2021November 4, 2021 / shinecrossings / Leave a comment

The world will tell you there’s no one truth—truth is your truth and what you believe. God will tell you that there’s absolute truth. His truth. What side of the continuum do you claim? When Satan can manipulate you to believe your own truth, you will defend and be his strongest alley and soldier without ever realizing the wickedness you are wielding.

Those who have a spiritual connection with God know there is only one truth—the truth of our Creator. In today’s political climate, the divide continues to widen and strengthen. Those who know God are barraged by the liberal agenda to succumb to its way of thinking. Not a surprise since the devil is at work on earth to destroy humanity by using misguided humans. As Christians run or succumb, where do those left standing go to seek rest, find their tribe, and recharge their energy.

Today’s story reminds me of the final days of David and Saul in the book of Samuel. David was the anointed king of Israel, but Saul was not prepared to give up his throne. David was a man after God’s heart. To escape death, David escaped and sought refuge in the Cave of Adullam (1 Samuel 22). Who gathered to him? Those who were in distress, in debt, or discontented—about 400 men in total followed David.

What does Adullam mean? Justice of Jehovah or Justice of the People. Adullam also means hiding place, retreat, or refuge. What is Adullam Ranch? The Retreat for God’s Just People. Where is Adullam Ranch? In a place you’d least expect…

The Revelation of the Book of Revelation

May 13, 2021May 5, 2021 / shinecrossings / Leave a comment

Is there a reason why the Bible starts with Genesis and ends with Revelation? I don’t think of the books of the Bible on a continuum but a story that comes full circle—a place that starts and ends at the same point. My revelation of the Book of Revelation is how it explains the struggle of getting back to the days of Genesis.

Genesis defines who God is and the perfect human relationship with Him. You can see through Adam’s and Eve’s relationship with God, the design He had for humanity. Revelation revels Christ’s identity and the hope to restore humankind back into the perfect relationship with God while at the same time showing how broken our world is by the reproach in the letters to the 7 churches. And to think, this was the condition of the churches just 95 years after Jesus’s birth. What might the letters look like today in 2021 with untold numbers of Christian denominations. When Jesus ascended into Heaven, I imagine his vision was for one church and not hundreds of religions.

Revelation

Revelation identifies Christ’s full identity and the only means of getting back to the original relationship design in Genesis. Thom Rainer in his research published in Autopsy of a Deceased Church says that 90% of churches are sick or dying. Is God taking away their lamp stands? Have you watched the documentary The Clergy Project, which in my opinion, should be renamed Atheists in the Pulpit? If you haven’t, it will have you questioning whether your pastor has lost his or her faith in God while still preaching the Word in which they don’t believe.

What’s surprising about the 7 letters described in Revelation is that these were churches of Jesus’s day. You’d think they wouldn’t struggle as much as we do today, but it appears the struggle hasn’t changed much in 2000 years. These early Christian churches stood in what is now known as present day Turkey, and yet you can hardly find any Christians in the area.

Will you recognize your church in one of the 7 letters?

Ephesus: The judgers. They focus so much on not sinning that they lost the love and acceptance of people.
Smyrna: The fearful. These were the suffers. Encouraged to be faithful, not fearful, so they could receive the crown of life
Pergamum: The tolerators. They tolerated sin by bowing to the external pressure of being open-minded to the culture at large
Thyatira: The Jezebels. Promoted and took part in sexual immortality that was widely accepted in the day
Sardis: The spiritually dead. Active in doing good deeds but superficial because corrupt inside
Philadelphia: The hangeron-ers. Probably the only church not rebuked. Told to hold tight even though their strength may be weak
Laodicea: The half-hearters. These are those who believed and relied not on God but on their own self-sufficiency

These letters cover the same struggles that are going on in most churches across the country and world.

What Can Be Done?

Many people have never had a spiritual encounter with Jesus, God, and the Holy Spirit. The only way to God is through a personal relationship with Christ, which means you have to get comfortable with the spiritual realm—the same one described in stories throughout the Bible such as Jesus tempted by the devil for 40 days in the Judaean Desert and demons jumping out of people and into pigs. The world hasn’t change except the demons have multiplied.

Your ability to have a personal relationship with God is a spiritual battle through Original Sin. The Good News is that God made a way to reconcile us to him. You must focus on your relationship with Christ and not by adhering to the rules. Get into the Word, pray, and let God reveal Himself to you. When you do you will have the power to live according to the exemplified values of Christ and bring more Heaven to earth.

Full Circle

Genesis tells the story of God walking and talking with Adam and Eve in the Garden of Eden. Revelation describes people worshiping God face-to-face. Genesis describes a garden before an evil serpent. Revelation describes a perfect city without evil.

The only way to come full circle is to walk through the narrow gate. “…For wide is the gate and broad is the road that leads to destruction, and many enter through it. But small is the gate and narrow the road that leads to life, and only a few find it” (Matthew 7:14 (NIV). The narrow gate is an invitation from God for a personal, spiritual relationship.

If you’d like to talk more about Christ, Salvation, or the Bible, don’t hesitate to reach out for a conversation.

About the Author: Sandra Dillon is a professional coach with an extensive background in premarital/marriage, finances, ministry, and leadership. She coaches individuals and couples to find their purpose, be the heroes of their own life stories, and help them be a shining light in this spiritually dark world. You can learn more about Sandra or engage her as you coach by reaching out to her at shinecrossings@gmail.com

Salvation: How Saved Are You?

May 6, 2021May 4, 2021 / shinecrossings / 1 Comment

Yes, I’m having you question your Salvation: not whether you should be but whether you are. There are professed Christians walking around with the false comfort that they’re saved and going to Heaven, washed clean by the blood of Christ. I want everyone to enter the Kingdom of Heaven, but I’m not convinced everyone knows how.

Romans 10:9

You may not know that Salvation is a 2-step process as described in Romans 10:9 (NLT): If you openly declare that Jesus is Lord and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved. Step 1: openly confess with your audible words that Jesus is your Lord and Savior. Step 2: believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead to cover your sins and invite the Holy Spirit to renew your heart. Jesus answered in John 3:5, “Truly, truly I say to you, unless one is born of water and the Spirit, he cannot enter the Kingdom of God.” Some people never complete the second task, believing if they only say the script following the pastor’s prompt, that all will be settled.

Why Your Heart Matters in Your Salvation

You may question why believing with your heart makes a difference. I’d say that God makes the rules, and we likely won’t find out until we make it to Heaven. I have a theory though why it matters.

God made each of us in three parts: body, soul (mind), and spirit (heart). When you’re saved, the Holy Spirit camps out in your heart, and you have a renewed spirit. Only your heart is able to commune with God through the power of the Holy Spirit. Your earthly body and mind only come along for the ride as your spirit connects with God. That’s why it’s so important that you fulfill part 2 of Romans 10:9. Your connection with God through the Holy Spirit, confirms you’re saved. If you only profess through your words and have head knowledge, you haven’t made the connection.

Why You May Think You’re Saved When You May Not

In Christian circles, there are those who have a personal relationship with The Trinity, and then those who never do. Christians can become blocked from being “too churched”, not uncommon for those kids who grew up culturized in the church. They learn the laws and stories of the Bible but lack a spiritual connection. Their relationship is based on pure head knowledge.

Because these “churched” Christians intellectually believe and understand the Bible, they mindfully believe Jesus is the way. They profess with their mouths but don’t necessarily believe in their heart. They don’t complete the final step and find joy in the Holy Spirit. Truly when the Holy Spirit comes it’s a spiritual encounter you won’t forget.

Don’t assume that I’m not for church. I’m all for Christian fellowship, discipleship, and growing in the Word which many churches facilitate. However, don’t depend on the church or substitute the church for your personal relationship with Christ. If you want to talk about Jesus and your personal relationship with God, reach out for a conversation.

What’s Your Vision of Heaven and Hell?

April 30, 2021April 30, 2021 / shinecrossings / Leave a comment

What’s your vision of Heaven? Hell? Specifically? You may be wondering why that’s important. Because without a detailed vision of what you, as a Christian, will get to enjoy when your spirit passes from your earthly bodysuit to Heaven, you’ll likely make different decisions while alive. The same is true of Hell. As a Christian, if you had a vivid picture of Hell, you’d probably spend more time spreading the Gospel, so others could make an informed decision to accept Jesus Christ as their personal savior?

When we don’t have a clear picture of the rewards or punishment of the future, it’s difficult to make choices to sacrifice in the present. Proverbs 29:18: Where there is no vision, the people perish: but he that keepeth the law, happy is he. What relevance is vision with Heaven and Hell?

Your Vision of Heaven

If you accept Jesus Christ as your personal savior, you become a Christian and reserve a spot in Heaven. Acceptance of Jesus Christ is not a head decision but a heart decision. Many people debate, and we’ll never know until we get there, whether you’re truly saved if you don’t have a heart change. That’s a discussion for another day.

Assuming you’re saved, you’ll will be judged by your earthly works on earth for the glory that will be bestowed upon you in Heaven. “For we must all appear before the judgment seat of Christ, so that each of us may receive what is due us for the things done while in the body, whether good or bad” (Corinthians 5:10). Therefore, “do not store up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moth and rust destroy, and where thieves break in and steal” (Matthew 6:19). Please know that good works don’t get you into Heaven, only the grace of God, but once you are a Christian, you’re still judged and rewarded by your works by the glory you’ll receive in Heaven.

Heaven is a glorious place for eternity with God. What’s your vision of Heaven? How do you visualize it? I see 24 hours of praise and worship and basking in the power and glory of God. I feel no pain or fear and only love and complete understanding. What you see can help you make better choices in bringing more of the Kingdom to earth as it is in Heaven.

Your Vision of Hell

Have you really spent much time thinking about hell and what it must be like? I know the spiritual realm exists based on my own communing with the Holy Spirit and demonic activity pressing into my world. I do believe in specific testimonies where Jesus has given a glimpse of Heaven and Hell to certain people. When I heard their accounts of hell, it chilled my bones.

Not surprisingly, someone described seeing Hitler in Hell. What were the demons doing to him? Hitler was tied to a chair and his flesh was continuously burned off his skeleton. When Hitler was only bone, the demons replaced his skin and burned it off again and again. Can you visualize that in your mind?

I don’t know what tortures Satan has for you if you find yourself to Hell, but he won’t have mercy for anyone. His modus operandi is clear: kill, steal, and destroy (John 10:10). When I imagine in my mind of what Satan wants to do to every one of God’s children, I want to declare the Good News. Anyone, and I mean anyone, can join God, Jesus, and the Holy Spirit in Heaven. You just accept Jesus as your personal savior, who shed his blood to wash you clean. As you stand before God on Judgement Day, Jesus will then step in front of you and say, “There is no case against [your name]. The case is closed. I paid [your name] the price with my blood.”

Your Next Step

Do you want to deepen your relationship with God and Jesus? Do you want to pass from this earth and know where you’re going? If you want to talk about God, Jesus, Heaven, and/or Hell, reach out for a conversation.

Where Are You on the Spiritual Continuum?

April 28, 2021April 23, 2021 / shinecrossings / Leave a comment

We’re all on a continuum of spirituality. The question is where are you today, and what direction do you want to go? One anchor of the continuum is the Demonic Spirit with the other end as the Holy Spirit. If you think no one would sit on the right hand of Satan, think again. There are devil worshipers, witches, and warlocks walking among us. I’ve met them. From my perspective the Religious Spirit sits in the middle.

Many people may understand the difference between the Holy Spirit and Demonic Spirit but are confused in the definition of the Religious Spirit. Aren’t people who profess their faith in the Christian religion of the Holy Spirit? Not necessarily.

The difference between the Religious Spirit and Holy Spirit is the ability to tap into the power of the Holy Spirit. There are many people who are Christian in head knowledge and mind acceptance. These types of Christians are typically rule-based and judgmental of people and situations that don’t align with religious laws. They have no personal relationship with the Holy Spirit and aren’t able to tap into the power of the Holy Spirit for healing, miracles, and casting out demons.

Those who know the Holy Spirit have personal relationship with God through their heart connection. Although they have knowledge of the religious, they tap into the power, discernment, and wisdom of the Holy Spirit. The body (flesh) and the soul (mind) don’t intimately know the Holy Spirit. They go along for the ride when the heart and the Holy Spirit commune. People aligned with the Holy Spirit feel the love of Jesus Christ and are compelled to be obedient to the Lord’s calling for their life. They actively seek the knowledge from their books written in Heaven before they were born, and their greatest reward is to live out those pages for the Kingdom.

Our spiritual being is on a journey. Where are you on the spiritual continuum and where do you want to go? What will you do next to get there?

What’s Your Favorite Fruit of the Holy Spirit?

April 21, 2021 / shinecrossings / Leave a comment

Galatians 5:22-23 lists the fruits of the Holy Spirit which are love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. Quite a powerful list of fruits, which begs the question: what’s your favorite fruit?

Many Christmas cards tout love, joy, and peace, in some combination, which means they must be high on the list, don’t you think? As I reflect on which ones have the most meaning in my life, I choose joy and peace. I thank the Holy Spirit for these foremost, for what they bring me on a daily basis while I live on this earth.

Joy—there’s nothing more precious than the feeling of deep pleasure and a fulfillment so strong that there’s no void or no space for anything else—total gratitude for feeling so deliciously, soulfully, full. And then because there’s no such thing as a struggle-free life, when things try to rob you of your joy, that’s where the feeling of peace is so powerful. There’s no words to describe the awareness that you’re in a storm but that you’ll be alright, regardless of the outcome. Your chosen mindset: this too shall pass, and there will be more joy around the corner.

Joy and peace work so well together. They go hand-in-hand to keep joy at an even keel regardless of what the devil and his demons throw at you. My favorite lifetime fruits of the Holy Spirit at Joy and Peace. Amen!

So what’s your favorite fruit?

What Every Christian Needs to Know About Spiritual Realms

April 12, 2021May 19, 2021 / shinecrossings / 2 Comments

What’s at the deep of your core? As a life coach, I help my clients focus on what God put inside of them as part of His design. This same God that breathed out stars, breathed life into you. Yet, it seems so many know so little about the true nature of God, themselves, and God’s design for their life.

Where does one start when one wants to get started? The basics. Understanding the two realms that exist and how we tap into them. You’re familiar with the earthly realm, but how much do you know of or live in the spiritual realm? As children of God, we should live in both, but you can only hang out with God by having the key to the spiritual realm.

World Realms

God created two realms: God’s Kingdom (spiritual) and Earth (physical). Before the Fall (original Sin), Adam and Eve walked and talked daily with God in the Garden of Eden. Both were in the spiritual realm; all was perfect as it is in Heaven.

God’s Children

God made humans in His image, but we are comprised of three parts as we live on earth:

Body (earth suit)
Soul (mind, emotions, will)
Spirit (heart)

The Fall created separation between God and us. After the bite of the fruit from the Tree of Good and Evil, Adam and Eve hid from God. They no longer were allowed to enjoy the fruits of the spiritual realm, as they were no longer one with God. The Spirit connection was broken.

Although Adam and Eve were banished from the Garden of Eden to live out the consequences of their sin, God had a design to spiritually reconcile Him with humanity through the blood of Jesus Christ. By the birth, death, and resurrection of Jesus, people can choose by their free will to believe in Jesus as their Lord and Savior.

If you so believe in your heart, the Holy Spirit will connect your heart with the Father, so you can walk in the spiritual realm. When Jesus left the earth to return at some appointed time in the future, He left us with the gift of the Holy Spirit (a helper) to help guide and support us while we live in this earthly world.

Our physical body and soul cannot access the spiritual realm, only our heart spirit. Satan doesn’t have access to your heart spirit if you are a Christ believer. However, the devil and his demonic minions can attack your body and soul, and they do their best to distract and separate us from God and his design for our life.

Christian Spirituality

Unfortunately, many Christians only have head knowledge and not heart knowledge of Jesus and God. They’ve never communed with God in the Spirit. The devil rejoices if he can keep you out of the spirit.

In some circles, you may hear that many Christians are 18 inches from salvation: the average distance between a person’s head and heart. Others say you can get into heaven based on a mind commitment but beware Judgement Day with the Father.

The more I try to talk and walk with God, the stronger my personal relationship with Him grows. I live in this world, but I don’t want to be of this world. And yes, the devil tempts and does his darndest to distract me.

How to Connect with the Spirit

Your soul can help you connect with your spirit through the renewing of your mind. Read the Bible (even small passages), reflect, and implement the Word. Pray. These actions help you focus on connecting with God through the Holy Spirit and hearing God’s voice. Mediate, quiet your mind, listen for God’s messages, and wait for God’s visions.

Forgive others, so unforgiveness doesn’t poison your heart. I believe God looks at unforgiveness as the greatest sin. Why? Because Jesus’s ultimate sacrifice was dying on the cross to forgive us our sins. If we won’t do so for others, when we have been gifted ultimate grace, we truly don’t know the heart of our Father.

Role of the Church

Since many pastors don’t preach on the spiritual realm, they don’t cover these building blocks and how we can connect spiritually connect with God. If you don’t get these concepts, you won’t understand how the spiritual realm and earthly battlefields interact and how demons work against you in discovering and living out God’s design for your life.

Christianity is the expression of a personal relationship with God in the spiritual realm. Religion is only man’s interpretation of God’s Kingdom on earth carried out through a set of rules. If you’ve never experienced God in the spiritual realm, you’ll likely believe Christianity is a bunch of “do good” rules to follow.

Gospel Conversations Made Easier

April 7, 2021April 6, 2021 / shinecrossings / Leave a comment

Where are my Christian brothers and sisters? I pray that you enjoyed celebrating Easter—your gift of Salvation from our brother, Jesus, when he rose from the grave on the third day after his slaughter as the sacrificial lamb for our everlasting life. Our Christianity, a faith that embraces diversity and inclusion, invites everyone to believe. No one is excluded from the gift of grace. Now that is Good News worth talking about. So, brothers and sisters, when was the last time you shared the Gospel with an unbeliever?

I know, having a Gospel conversation can be uncomfortable, especially when you haven’t done it or it’s been awhile. Feeling a bit unpracticed? Feeling unskilled? You are absolutely equipped where you stand, because you are a Christian. Remember that you’re not responsible for bringing people to Christ, because that’s God’s job, but you are responsible for having the conversation and letting the Holy Spirit do His work.

I have a suggestion on how to have easier Gospel conversations. Be inviting and open so people will share their own personal struggles. You don’t have to have walked in their shoes, but you can share how the Gospel has changed your life as a way to connect.

Start with a response with “Can I share with you something that helped me when I struggled?” Most people will give their permission. If paper and pen are available, use them, because pictures always help. If not, do the best you can to tell the story. The conversation unfolds around 3 circles connected by 3 arrows.

Make the story your own but include the following points:

God has a design (circle) for your life to bring all good things for you
Sin (arrow) was created and takes us to our
Brokenness (circle) which can manifest in addiction, anger, broken relationships, and despair
When we repent and believe (arrow) in Jesus as our personal savior we live out
The Gospel (circle) which allows us to
Recover and pursue (arrow) all the God has for our lives and allows us to live out God’s Design.

Use your own testimony that follows this simple full circle process. Think through and practice your own testimony that brings the 3-circle methodology to life.

You can wrap the conversation with questions with “Is there anything that would prevent you from repenting and believing in Jesus as your personal savior right now?” Be prepared to lead them in the words to invite Christ into their heart. If they aren’t ready to make the commitment, let them know you are always open for another conversation.

Good luck and don’t be afraid. The Holy Spirit is with you.

What Genesis Tells Us About Marriage

February 4, 2021February 4, 2021 / shinecrossings / 2 Comments

Genesis describes the first man, woman, and marriage. This first book of the Bible also provides insights into God’s original design of marriage as well as helps explain why many of today’s marriage fall short of God’s plan. The challenges and troubles in current marriages are easily explained by the consequences set forth by the bite of forbidden fruit.

God’s Design of Man and Woman

In Genesis 1:26 (NIV), “Then God said, ‘Let us make man [mankind, human] in our image…let THEM rule over the fish of the sea and the birds of the air, over the livestock, over all the earth…” “So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them” (Genesis 1:27, NIV). These Scriptures show that in the beginning both man and woman were made in the image of God with neither one or the other above or below each other.

God first created woman from Adam’s rib. She was part of Adam’s DNA: bone of his bone and flesh of his flesh (Genesis 2:23). This description gives deep understanding why a man will leave his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they will become one flesh (Genesis 2:24). Before the Fall husband and wife were equal but different with neither one more superior than the other. You could infer that Adam and his wife lived in paradise and had the perfect marriage. And then crawled the serpent through the Garden of Eden playing head games with the woman.

Sin Changed Marriage

….and not for the better. The one bite of the fruit from the Tree of Knowledge of Good and Evil changed marriage from that moment on. When Adam and the woman disobeyed God of their own free will, they had to pay a price for their sinful choice. What was their punishment?

In Genesis 3:16, “To the woman [God] said, ‘I will greatly increase your pains in childbearing; with the pain you will give birth to children. Your desire will be for your husband, and he will rule over you.’”

Woman’s consequence for her free will behavior was to be lorded over by her husband. She lost her status as an equal to husband. Why is it important to understand the penalty? Because today many marriages suffer, when husbands lord over their wives, a direct result of Adam’s and Eve’s sins. Remember, this was not God’s design of the perfect marriage.

Why Woman Became Known as Eve

Up until the Fall, God refers to the first woman as “wife” or “woman”. She doesn’t get her name until God says that Adam would rule over her, so “Adam named his wife Eve” (Genesis 3:28, NIV). This was the same instructions that God gave Adam when He gave Adam dominion over all living things (Genesis 2:19). Where once Adam and Eve were co-managers of the Garden of Eden, now Adam ruled over Eve. And it didn’t end with the first couple. They set in motion the same sinful outcome for generations.

Marriage Message for Our Time

Many wonder why there’s so much inequity between men and women in general, and even in marriages? Christian marriages no less. The simple answer is the consequence of sin in the Garden of Eden has propagated through family legacies.

God didn’t design marriage for the husband to rule over his wife, yet the Fall explains the fight that started with the first bite of the forbidden fruit. As Christians we should know what God’s design for marriage truly is and to fight to live it out in our own marriages. Are you treating each other as equals? If not, you have knowledge and free will do choose better for your marriage.

If You Don’t Know Genesis, I Doubt You Know My God

February 3, 2021February 3, 2021 / shinecrossings / 1 Comment

The God that breathed out stars is the same God that created you. Before you were ever born, books were written in the heavens about you and your purpose (Palms 139:16). God has a plan for your life. Will you choose to live out God’s design for your life through obedience or exercise your free will?

Why it’s important to understand Genesis?

Genesis has powerful messages through the stories lived by the founding families of this earth. Their life lessons are taught in our classroom, where we can learn more about our God of yesterday, today, and the future, as we build our personal relationship with Him. In Genesis we:

Learn of the power and glory of God
Understand the catalyst (The Fall) that continues to cause pain and suffering in God’s children
Provides hope and assurance that we can be reconciled with the God who created each one of us in His image

If you don’t get the lessons in Genesis, you’ll likely question why you struggle so much, wonder why you’re “here”, and feel a level of emptiness in your life. Truly, how fulfilled is your soul?

What does Genesis reveal?

God is always talking to us regardless of whether we choose to listen. He is a good, good Father.

God gives us free will. He doesn’t demand our obedience but allows us to suffer the consequences of our choices.
God desires obedience which is the highest form of love, praise, and worship. Whether we realize it or not, He is the Father that knows best.
God still loves us even when sin. After Adam and Eve took a bite of the apple from Tree of Good and Evil, God was creating a plan to reconcile humanity to Him through the blood of Jesus Christ.
Not only are we living with our own sin from personal choices, we’re also suffering with the generational sin we inherited.

I may understand Genesis more than most, because obedience is one of my core values. Some have the illusion that freedom is doing what you want. God says freedom comes from obedience to Him and knowing what not to do. Eve took a bite of the forbidden fruit although everything else in the Garden was hers for the taking. How often is your attention drawn away from the much that you have toward the little that you don’t?

What are the life truths from Genesis?

If you’ve spent time in Genesis, you may have some of your own truths that God whispered to you. Messages that resonate with me include:

God is faithful to those who obey Him.
God does not always protect us from trouble but deeply cares for us, never leaves us through our suffering, and can make good from our bad choices.
Obedience is a committed walk with the Lord, but the world will try and pull you away toward the pleasure of sin.
You may be faithful and obedient, but you will never be perfect. Our sinful nature is always carried with us.

I encourage you to read The Book of Genesis and pull out the voice of God that is talking to you through His Word.

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